Private connection for your circle
Notice the moment. Keep the spark.
PairJar brings appreciation, low-pressure plans, mutually chosen rewards, and an optional Intimacy Space into one private iPhone app for invited adults.
Made for iPhone · For adults 18+
Invite-only adult circles
Mutual by design
Private previews you control
The appreciation loop
The moment stays with you.
Send a real thank-you and PairJar keeps it in your circle's history. If you are the chosen contributor to the recipient's active, unpaused reward and it is still below its target, an eligible non-intimate thank-you adds exactly one stamp.
No eligible active reward? It still stays as appreciation. It cannot be saved up or applied later.
Optional. Mutual. Only for two.
A private space for two.
Intimacy Space is available only in a circle with exactly two active adults after both independently enable it. Tender, Flirty, Hungry, and Curious moods help you open the right kind of private moment without turning it into an obligation.
Either person can opt out at any time. Intimacy Space stays separate from rewards, stamps, ordinary plans, and the circle's general activity.
An idea, never an obligation
Make plans without pressure.
Start with a quick idea or write your own invitation. The named participants can shape it together, and either person can decline, pause, edit, or remove it without penalty.
Shared plans stay invitations. They are never debts, scores, or automatic commitments.
Rewards without pressure
Choose each reward together.
Each reward has one owner and one chosen contributor. It activates only after those two people approve the same version, and either can decline, revise, pause, or remove it without penalty.
Rewards are always non-intimate. Only eligible appreciation from the chosen contributor can move that reward forward.
Face ID + private previews
Privacy stays in your hands.
Lock PairJar with Face ID and hide its content in the app switcher. Ordinary activity alerts stay generic. Intimacy previews are a private per-device choice: Off, Discreet, or Spicy.
Even Spicy previews use only an approved phrase - never names, custom text, or IDs. Notifications, the iPhone widget, and Apple Watch glances open PairJar for confirmation instead of sending an intimate action directly.
A useful Free plan
Keep the ritual. Add room only when you need it.
- 01PairJar Free: up to two active adults and three concurrently open rewards.
- 02Appreciation, stamps, reward progress, redemption, plans, Intimacy Space for eligible two-person circles, and history stay unlimited on Free.
- 03PairJar Plus: larger circles and unlimited open rewards. One active subscriber sponsors their current circle.
- 04If Plus ends, existing people and history stay. Only expansion beyond the Free limits waits.
- 05U.S. reference price: $2.99 monthly or $19.99 yearly-about 44% less than twelve monthly renewals-with no free trial. Apple shows the applicable local price before purchase.
What PairJar refuses to be
No leaderboard. No fairness score. No keeping score.
A stamp marks appreciation toward one active reward. It is never cash, a transferable balance, a relationship grade, or entitlement to affection, sex, money, or labor.
Private by design
Built around mutual choice.
- 01No public profiles, discovery feed, ads, contact uploads, or behavioral tracking.
- 02Face ID App Lock and an app-switcher cover help keep private content away from someone holding your phone.
- 03Leave, block, report, or change your mind without needing another member’s permission.
- 04Optional Intimacy Space is limited to exactly-two circles, requires both people to enable it, and can be turned off at any time.
- 05Every stamp comes from an explicit, eligible thank-you - not a scan, streak, timer, or automatic action.
For your little things
Notice it. Stamp it. Celebrate your way.
Read how PairJar handles support, privacy, and mutual safety before you begin.